What’s your home management style?

Do you run your house or does your house run you?  Or wait do you run away from your house every chance you get?  Confession time – I live in my office space which is clean and organized as much as possible.  I am here to tell you there is hope on the horizon for those of us who struggle with home management.

Stacy Myers with Humorous Homemaking created “Home Management How-To: A Guide to Daily Success”.  The course includes eight simple, easy-to-follow lessons.    Stacy is a stay at home mom but her course addresses stay at home moms, working moms and those of us who have become “Two Again”.  I am through lesson four and have already began to see a difference in my home.

As a working mom of three before they grew up, I felt like my home spiraled out of control most days.  Managing a home takes a routine that one can live with and accomplish day after day.  Honestly, I never found that routine.  This eCourse is guiding me to a new direction for my home and ultimately my peace of mind.  The course address a Realistic Routine as the most essential lesson.  Then it goes it into laundry, office work, errands, kitchen and cleaning.  Stacy even has a lesson on how to catch-up and get ahead plus my favorite lesson is the one on REST!

So if you are struggling with home management, check out the Humorous Homemaking.   Stacy will entertain you while she presents a powerful presentation to gain control of your home.

Our Parents

 

Well the kids are all grown up but that means that our parents are also growing older.  So we turn from nurturing children to our parents.  My mom lives in an apartment on our property.  Steven’s parents live across the street.  This was an intentional plan on our part so that they could be involved in our children’s childhood and so that we would be there to care for them when they need assistance.

My father passed away last September and it was a blessing to have him right here with us until the end.  Yesterday we were called in to action when my mother-in-law fell and broke her right arm.  The close proximity makes it so easy to handle ER trips and future orthopedic appointments.  Parkinson, Dementia and Alzheimer are common words in our home.

Has it been easy to have family so very close?  Some days it is wonderful and some days its a challenge.  The challenging days are worth every moment as the good days make one forgot all the rest.  Sort of like childbirth……painful and then the blessing arrives.  The biggest blessing is that my children are friends with their grandparents and they are now stepping up to provide care when needed to them.  My beautiful young daughter spent 2 weeks at my dad’s side when he was in hospice.

Elders are so important in the Circle of Family!  Our family circle is ever evolving…..once my grandparents provide my care for me….our parents cared for our children……and we plan to provide care for our future grandchildren.

Call your mom….your dad….your grandparents…..they won’t be here for ever!

Procrastination

Is it just me or does everyone have moments of procrastination?  Thesaurus.com provides the following synonyms: dawdle, dally, defer, lag, prolong and tarry.  Of course there are numerous others but those caught my interest.

Ana Swanson writes that “most psychologists see procrastination as a kind of avoidance behavior”. (article) I have always been one who completes projects as the last possible moment.  My best example is when I was completing my BSN degree five years ago and the assignment was due on Sunday @ 12 midnight and I started working on it Sunday evening.

I feel that one also procrastinates when one has too many “projects” on their To Do List.  My list of what I want to change/fix/do has blossomed way out of control since the kids have all reached adulthood.  I am writing this blog while I am learning about essential oils.   And there’s the full-time job that requires my attention.  I am also purging closets, children’s rooms, and a built out attic space of 18 years worth of stuff.  And then there’s the want to redecorate our home post kids!

So how does one move past procrastination?  List out your tasks and then prioritize them.  Take an individual task and determine the steps to complete that task.  Progress toward completing one step at a time can lead to the completion of the task.  It is also important to block out time on your calendar to complete certain tasks.  This block of time serves as a reminder that you need to work on a specific task.

One of my task to complete in the next week is to make the curtains for the back set of living area windows.  I have the material and measurements — the task is very simple and could be completed in about 4 hours if I would just set up the sewing machine and get it to it.  What do you need to do?

 

February 2, 2017

Well I missed last week…..but wait I have a great excuse!  We were cruising on the Royal Caribbean; Harmony of the Seas.  I could blame it on the lack of internet access but the ship has the best internet access I have every experienced on a cruise ship.  There was just too much fun to be had so I got off track.  I promise to tell you all about Harmony of the Seas, the newest ship for Royal Caribbean in next week’s blog.

So why do we travel?  Our goal is to get away from work and the responsibilities of home.  We spend the days together and reconnect.  Reconnecting allows us to come home re-fueled and ready for everyday life.  I do tend to stay “plugged in” to email and texting due to our children and elderly parents while we travel.   I believe this connection allows me to relax and not worry about things at home.

We believe our next adventure is a driving trip from Texas to Maine.  There are 21 states plus Washington DC left on my USA map that I have not visited.  With the trip we have planned – 9 states will be marked on the map.  I have been using an website, Roadtrippers, to plan this adventure.  The site allows you enter a starting place and a destination.  It will show you hotels, attractions, natural wonders and weird stuff along your route.  It also has numerous trip guides ready for you to use.  One that interest me is “Border to Border: The best stops along I-5”.  This trip is on the list for Spring 2018.  There are 34 stops along this 1,815 mile journey.

So where do you want to go?  Drop me a note and tell a friend about “Two Again”!

Countess

January 19, 2017 – Kids Leaving Home

Today a school bus ahead of me stopped to drop off two young children.  I watched them run up the driveway and into the house.  A smile crossed my face as I remember those sweet days with my children.

Watching ones children leave home isn’t easy.  My two oldest left home within a couple of weeks of each other.     One to join her husband at Camp Lejeune and the other to college in Arkansas.  My youngest did enjoy his senior year as an only child.  Then the day came for us to leave the him at his college dorm.  As we drove home, we both contemplated the days and years ahead.

A bucket list is a good place to start.  Our bucket list became 3 separate lists – house, yard and travel.  As we look around us, we were amazed at all the things that we had never gotten to done in our house and the land we live on.  Never regret the things that don’t get done when you are busy raising your kids.  Treasure their activities that causes you to miss cleaning the house or planting that flower bed.  Being part of our children’s life molded them into the young adults they are today.

Back to the bucket list — brainstorm about things you want to do together but don’t forget to find things that only you might want to do. We are ramping up our travel plans.  There’s a cruise in the next few weeks and tentatively a driving trip all the way to Maine in the fall.
I have started crocheting again and my essential oil practices keep me busy making blends and household cleaning products.  Hubby has started changing the family room back to his man cave.  Spring will bring yard work again.


So what is on your bucket list?

Countess

Two Again?

Two Again LogoTwo Again is a brand new blog that addresses life after the kids grow up.  Overnight it seems they go from being Children to Adults.

Then one looks around and finds it is just the two of us again.  We raised three children who were born within three years of each other.  The first child came ten months after we were married.  So that tells you we have haven’t had time to ourselves in quite sometime. After 22 years they have all reached adulthood and we are finally “Two Again”.

My Kids
June 2015

I look forward to sharing about our journey with just the two of us.  There will be lots of stories and laughter along the way.  Check out “Who Am I” and drop me a comment before you go!

Countess